“I feel most people’s sexuality is enormously complicated. That’s what it means to be human. Wouldn’t it be great if we honored that complexity rather than turn it into gossip or ridicule? Wouldn’t it be great if we accepted sexual diversity, in ourselves and others, without condemning it?”
Janet Jackson, Essence Magazine (via asexualquotes)
I wouldn’t normally quote Janet Jackson, but she is SPOT ON. I mean, the level of ridicule and negativity I’ve dealt with in my own life is incredible. I’m not sure why people are so set on either being totally inflexible about their sexual practices, or feel the need to try and make others conform to their own preconceptions about sexual practice.
9:58 am • 25 September 2013 • 12,643 notes
reblogging this so claire can reblog it
she’s pretty insistent
i didn’t know corgi-cats were a thing
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4:32 pm • 22 September 2013 • 227,858 notes
I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, although it is a kind of rape of the spirit - a dishonest portrayal or distortion of my own desire in order to appease another person.
I said yes because I felt it was too much trouble to say no. I said yes because I didn’t want to have to defend my “no,” qualify it, justify it - deserve it. I said yes because I thought I was so ugly and fat that I should just take sex every time it was offered, because who knew when it would be offered again. I said yes to partners I never wanted in the first place, because to say no at any point after saying yes for so long would make our entire relationship a lie, so I had to keep saying yes in order to keep the “no” I felt a secret. That is such a messed-up way to live, such an awful way to love.
So these days, I say yes only when I mean yes. It does require some vigilance on my part to make sure I don’t just go on sexual automatic pilot and let people do whatever. It forces me to be really honest with myself and others. It makes me remember that loving myself is also about protecting myself and defending my own borders. I say yes to me.
— Margaret Cho, “Yes Means Yes” (via spitswap)
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10:19 am • 21 September 2013 • 30,338 notes
Number of children blackmailed into webcam sex acts increasing, says report
One teenager who was interviewed by police in a blackmail case told investigators she was targeted when she was 12.
"This person started talking to me in the internet and said he was around my age,” she said.
"Then the conversation sort of developed into other things. He’d steer the conversation in a way that was turning a bit dirty then he’d start asking for other types of pictures as well.
"If you try and say: ‘Oh I don’t want to talk about that,’ he’d threaten or blackmail me, saying he’d send my dad all the chat logs if I didn’t do what he said … he started to do that every week.
"He always used to say: ‘You know what happens if you don’t send me any.’ "
3:27 am • 20 September 2013 • 4 notes
i thought about it and so far this is probably my favorite beyoncé tumblr post
4:10 pm • 19 September 2013 • 6,431 notes